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Gut Instinct, Gut Wisdom
Going with your gut can be a wise choice
Day 17 — July 25, 2021 — There is no “normal”
I had a hangover and it was hot so I walked to the beach at 6 pm. It was fabulous.
Earlier I had an epiphany that started with a question:
“Left to my own devices, would I have chosen to go out on a second date with the guy I met last weekend?”
Answer: “NO.”
So I shouldn’t have been willing to say “YES,” if he asked me, but I was.
Epiphany: I need to go with my gut instinct when it comes to guys, instead of either going along with what they want or intellectualizing the whole thing.
These are my go-tos — letting them decide, or going up in my head and debating the wisdom of each alternative — sad. My gut is wiser than them or my head.
Is it normal to be 58 years old and still not know how to date? Then again, what is “normal” anyway?
I own that I have some self-defeating behavior patterns surrounding romantic relationships. I also know that these patterns developed as a direct result of childhood trauma. As a young girl, these patterns protected me, made me feel safe. But they no longer serve me.
